My brother died last Tuesday. Suffice it to say I did not react the way I thought I would. It's bittersweet and a whole juxtaposition of emotions. I knew he had health issues and did not take care of himself. That has been his life for 20+ years. I was surprised he actually died. Somehow, I think he was going to continue making life difficult for long time yet. It's just...weird. I don't have all the words for it.
But...I wrote his obit. No one else has the capacity right now to do it. And it's just one of those things that should be done.
What I had originally written for my brothers obit. I was told I was too mean and that I should not include those kind of truths when someone dies.
David Laurence Varnell, aged 54 - way too young - passed away in Los Angeles, California on February 8, 2022.
David leaves behind three siblings: John, Diane and Alison. He was also a mediocre father to his son, David Jr and his daughter Kesha. He tried to be a good parent, early on and was more moderately successful then, but life seemed to have a way of complicating his abilities in that area. David also left behind 3 nieces and 1 nephew.
He loved playing foosball, video games, pinball, pool - you name it. He got very good at both pool and foosball, having spent a lot of time practicing those. When he was younger, he played soccer with the AYSO, at which was very good at. He was always curious about how computers and consoles work and would take them apart to figure them out, very much self taught in a lot of the things he accomplished over the short course of his life.
He could be funny and nice and helpful, he was all of these things at many points and for many people. He got distracted by a lot of negative things over the course of his life too, some of which sadly made a bad impact on his health, his skills and family.
Hopefully he is at rest and in peace now.
What it finally ended up as:
David Laurence Varnell, aged 54 - way too young - passed away in Los Angeles, California on February 8, 2022.
David leaves behind three siblings: John, Diane and Alison. He was also a father to his son, David Jr and his daughter Kesha. David also left behind 3 nieces, 2 nephews, 1 cousin and the friends he made during his many adventures.
He loved playing foosball, video games, pinball, pool - you name it. He got extremely good at both pool and foosball, having spent a lot of time practicing those. He was always active , with sports or having fun. He was continuously curious about how computers and consoles work and would take them apart to figure them out, David was very much self taught in most of the things he accomplished over the short course of his life.
He could be funny and nice and helpful, he was all of these things at many points and for many people. He got distracted by a lot of negative things over the course of his life too, some of which sadly made a bad impact on his health, his skills and family. But he tried and that is all any of us can do.
Hopefully he is at resting peacefully and knows that he is missed.
Hopefully the revised version is well enough to not cause drama.
I even sent my brother John the link and I haven't talked to him in 3 years.
I did not include Levera (nor his Ex Noreen) - or the 7 supposed adopted kids in the Philippines he has.
